Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Spiritual Pollution

If our ego can see itself as another might, then action can be monitored and vital cooperation can result. – Edward E. Sampson We understand what it means to pollute our air or our water, but what most of us don’t realize is that our ego creates a form of spiritual pollution. We’re projecting our egoic attachments into the world, in …

Scapegoating Skepticism

It’s a most distressing affliction to have a sentimental heart and a skeptical mind. – Naguib Mahfouz Our ego, the central processing center of consciousness, endlessly pressures our logic into abandoning the truth in our hearts because it likes to exert and maintain control. This is reinforced culturally: first, through the Newtonian-Cartesian split between mind and body, and second, because …

Initiating Intuition

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.    – Albert Einstein The more rapid-fire change we face, the more essential it is to get smarter about the way we are smart . . . In Western culture, we …

Surrender Time

Careful with those who would rush your healing, who would point to their watch and remind you of time’s passing. – Tyler Knott Gregson Culturally, we aren’t taught emotional intelligence. Some of us, if we’re lucky, will learn it in our families . . . The bulk of us though, will largely learn to deal with emotional growth after we’ve …

Embracing the Inner Groundhog

I’m not going to live by their rules anymore. – Phil Connors (Bill Murray in Groundhog Day) I was born on February 2nd . . . In my native South Africa, this is just another summer day. But in my adopted country, my birthday is associated with the beloved tradition of Groundhog Day. For those who don’t know, there’s a …

The Power of Intention

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson A new year rolls around and we find ourselves looking back, assessing, and then turning our attention towards setting resolutions . . . And in the weeks and months that follow, we do our best to accomplish those …

My Mother’s Legacy

You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by. And so become yourself . . .   – Graham Nash My relationship with my mom has been one of the most rewarding, and at times, challenging of my life . . . My mother, Leslie Temple-Thurston, in her book The Marriage of Spirit, refers …

Overstaying Our Welcome

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela When we think of what we want most in life, getting stuck is probably not on the list . . . We all understand the dissatisfaction we feel when our lives aren’t …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …