Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Spiritual Pollution

If our ego can see itself as another might, then action can be monitored and vital cooperation can result. – Edward E. Sampson We understand what it means to pollute our air or our water, but what most of us don’t realize is that our ego creates a form of spiritual pollution. We’re projecting our egoic attachments into the world, in …

Scapegoating Skepticism

It’s a most distressing affliction to have a sentimental heart and a skeptical mind. – Naguib Mahfouz Our ego, the central processing center of consciousness, endlessly pressures our logic into abandoning the truth in our hearts because it likes to exert and maintain control. This is reinforced culturally: first, through the Newtonian-Cartesian split between mind and body, and second, because …

Initiating Intuition

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.    – Albert Einstein The more rapid-fire change we face, the more essential it is to get smarter about the way we are smart . . . In Western culture, we …

Surrender Time

Careful with those who would rush your healing, who would point to their watch and remind you of time’s passing. – Tyler Knott Gregson Culturally, we aren’t taught emotional intelligence. Some of us, if we’re lucky, will learn it in our families . . . The bulk of us though, will largely learn to deal with emotional growth after we’ve …

The Power of Intention

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson A new year rolls around and we find ourselves looking back, assessing, and then turning our attention towards setting resolutions . . . And in the weeks and months that follow, we do our best to accomplish those …

The Essence of Boundaries

Human relationships of true intimacy are founded on the vital trust in the other to achieve the completion of the Self. – Edward E. Sampson Our primary relationship is with our authentic Self . . . every other relationship follows from there . . . In order to get our needs met, we must invite a variety of relationships into …

Overstaying Our Welcome

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela When we think of what we want most in life, getting stuck is probably not on the list . . . We all understand the dissatisfaction we feel when our lives aren’t …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …

Barriers to Love

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi Why would we build barriers to love? The first time I read Rumi’s quote above, understanding it was almost beyond my emotional intelligence. It seemed so counter-intuitive. Aren’t we all just open receptacles to …