Grief is the Red Pill

There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. – Leonard Cohen Are you uncomfortable? Does the discomfort drive you to seek distractions? We’re built on distraction: it’s innate to our culture. And then a global pandemic strikes, forcing a new way of being for many of us. Culturally there are endless opportunities for distraction, even when …

Ethical Intelligence Transforms Culture

The unawakened mind tends to make war against the way things are. – Jack Kornfield It’s all so dizzying: too many news stories to follow adequately and seismic cultural shifts to integrate. As I write this, the United States is casting votes in what will undoubtedly be the most pivotal election in my lifetime . . . and the collective …

Breakdown or Breakthrough: The Dark Night of the Ego

(A Letter from Lockdown) In the end what you don’t surrender – well the world just strips away. – Bruce Springsteen Dear humanity, at long last, our collective wake-up call has arrived! Consciousness has been the consistent love of my life. I spent years immersed in books studying the long trajectory of human consciousness from the prewritten history of the …

Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Spiritual Pollution

If our ego can see itself as another might, then action can be monitored and vital cooperation can result. – Edward E. Sampson We understand what it means to pollute our air or our water, but what most of us don’t realize is that our ego creates a form of spiritual pollution. We’re projecting our egoic attachments into the world, in …

The Responsibility of Affluence

The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival. – Aristotle Indigenous cultures worldwide understand that for anyone to thrive, everyone must thrive. It’s a consequence of patriarchy that we have forgotten how we’re all interconnected and interdependent. Patriarchy is a system that maximizes hierarchy and minimizes empathy. This reality has …

Initiating Intuition

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.    – Albert Einstein The more rapid-fire change we face, the more essential it is to get smarter about the way we are smart . . . In Western culture, we …

Embracing the Inner Groundhog

I’m not going to live by their rules anymore. – Phil Connors (Bill Murray in Groundhog Day) I was born on February 2nd . . . In my native South Africa, this is just another summer day. But in my adopted country, my birthday is associated with the beloved tradition of Groundhog Day. For those who don’t know, there’s a …

The Power of Intention

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson A new year rolls around and we find ourselves looking back, assessing, and then turning our attention towards setting resolutions . . . And in the weeks and months that follow, we do our best to accomplish those …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …