Puberty, Perimenopause, and a Pandemic, Oh My!

It almost seems that occasionally giving up self-consciousness is necessary for building a strong self-concept. – Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Disclaimer: This is a more personal and vulnerable essay than I’m accustomed to sharing. I do so with the hope that getting this real will inspire and guide others to do the same, and perhaps alleviate some perceived taboos. What contributes to …

Ethical Intelligence Transforms Culture

The unawakened mind tends to make war against the way things are. – Jack Kornfield It’s all so dizzying: too many news stories to follow adequately and seismic cultural shifts to integrate. As I write this, the United States is casting votes in what will undoubtedly be the most pivotal election in my lifetime . . . and the collective …

Breakdown or Breakthrough: The Dark Night of the Ego

(A Letter from Lockdown) In the end what you don’t surrender – well the world just strips away. – Bruce Springsteen Dear humanity, at long last, our collective wake-up call has arrived! Consciousness has been the consistent love of my life. I spent years immersed in books studying the long trajectory of human consciousness from the prewritten history of the …

Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Spiritual Pollution

If our ego can see itself as another might, then action can be monitored and vital cooperation can result. – Edward E. Sampson We understand what it means to pollute our air or our water, but what most of us don’t realize is that our ego creates a form of spiritual pollution. We’re projecting our egoic attachments into the world, in …

Proclaiming Unconscious Parenting

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. – Frederick Douglass Collectively, we’re waking up to the reality that we’ve been living largely unconsciously for generations . . . With the cultural movement to live more consciously, comes heightened self-reflection and subsequent awareness around the wounding related to our unconscious choices, as well as the unconscious …

The Way Out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. – J.K. Rowling Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing we can do, is to let go when someone needs help . . . If the situation involves a compulsion or addiction that cannot be stopped no matter how sound the external advice or the effort of intervention by …

My Mother’s Legacy

You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by. And so become yourself . . .   – Graham Nash My relationship with my mom has been one of the most rewarding, and at times, challenging of my life . . . My mother, Leslie Temple-Thurston, in her book The Marriage of Spirit, refers …

The Essence of Boundaries

Human relationships of true intimacy are founded on the vital trust in the other to achieve the completion of the Self. – Edward E. Sampson Our primary relationship is with our authentic Self . . . every other relationship follows from there . . . In order to get our needs met, we must invite a variety of relationships into …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …