Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Proclaiming Unconscious Parenting

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. – Frederick Douglass Collectively, we’re waking up to the reality that we’ve been living largely unconsciously for generations . . . With the cultural movement to live more consciously, comes heightened self-reflection and subsequent awareness around the wounding related to our unconscious choices, as well as the unconscious …

The Way Out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. – J.K. Rowling Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing we can do, is to let go when someone needs help . . . If the situation involves a compulsion or addiction that cannot be stopped no matter how sound the external advice or the effort of intervention by …

My Mother’s Legacy

You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by. And so become yourself . . .   – Graham Nash My relationship with my mom has been one of the most rewarding, and at times, challenging of my life . . . My mother, Leslie Temple-Thurston, in her book The Marriage of Spirit, refers …

The Essence of Boundaries

Human relationships of true intimacy are founded on the vital trust in the other to achieve the completion of the Self. – Edward E. Sampson Our primary relationship is with our authentic Self . . . every other relationship follows from there . . . In order to get our needs met, we must invite a variety of relationships into …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …

Barriers to Love

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi Why would we build barriers to love? The first time I read Rumi’s quote above, understanding it was almost beyond my emotional intelligence. It seemed so counter-intuitive. Aren’t we all just open receptacles to …

Subtly Marginalized Child

When you are dealing with a child, keep all your wits about you, and sit on the floor. – Austin O’Malley Are you the lucky parent of an easy-going, sensitive child? Your child may be the most marginalized of all… Easy-going, sensitive children have a way of internalizing their angst to their detriment. We all know the kids that lash …