Surrender Time

Careful with those who would rush your healing, who would point to their watch and remind you of time’s passing. – Tyler Knott Gregson Culturally, we aren’t taught emotional intelligence. Some of us, if we’re lucky, will learn it in our families . . . The bulk of us though, will largely learn to deal with emotional growth after we’ve …

The Way Out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. – J.K. Rowling Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing we can do, is to let go when someone needs help . . . If the situation involves a compulsion or addiction that cannot be stopped no matter how sound the external advice or the effort of intervention by …

Embracing the Inner Groundhog

I’m not going to live by their rules anymore. – Phil Connors (Bill Murray in Groundhog Day) I was born on February 2nd . . . In my native South Africa, this is just another summer day. But in my adopted country, my birthday is associated with the beloved tradition of Groundhog Day. For those who don’t know, there’s a …

The Power of Intention

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson A new year rolls around and we find ourselves looking back, assessing, and then turning our attention towards setting resolutions . . . And in the weeks and months that follow, we do our best to accomplish those …

My Mother’s Legacy

You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by. And so become yourself . . .   – Graham Nash My relationship with my mom has been one of the most rewarding, and at times, challenging of my life . . . My mother, Leslie Temple-Thurston, in her book The Marriage of Spirit, refers …

The Essence of Boundaries

Human relationships of true intimacy are founded on the vital trust in the other to achieve the completion of the Self. – Edward E. Sampson Our primary relationship is with our authentic Self . . . every other relationship follows from there . . . In order to get our needs met, we must invite a variety of relationships into …

Overstaying Our Welcome

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela When we think of what we want most in life, getting stuck is probably not on the list . . . We all understand the dissatisfaction we feel when our lives aren’t …

The Spiritual Wisdom of Outlander

Then I was flying down the hill, with Jamie just before me, arms flung wide, the two of us flying together on that same wind. – Diana Gabaldon I hardly have time for novels, but like countless others, I got swept into Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series… I picked up the first book of eight on vacation in Scottsdale about six years ago. Given …

Barriers to Love

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi Why would we build barriers to love? The first time I read Rumi’s quote above, understanding it was almost beyond my emotional intelligence. It seemed so counter-intuitive. Aren’t we all just open receptacles to …