Ethical Intelligence Transforms Culture

The unawakened mind tends to make war against the way things are. – Jack Kornfield It’s all so dizzying: too many news stories to follow adequately and seismic cultural shifts to integrate. As I write this, the United States is casting votes in what will undoubtedly be the most pivotal election in my lifetime . . . and the collective …

Breakdown or Breakthrough: The Dark Night of the Ego

(A Letter from Lockdown) In the end what you don’t surrender – well the world just strips away. – Bruce Springsteen Dear humanity, at long last, our collective wake-up call has arrived! Consciousness has been the consistent love of my life. I spent years immersed in books studying the long trajectory of human consciousness from the prewritten history of the …

Letter to My 20-Year-Old Self on Our Birthday

I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. – Eve Ensler   My beloved Lis, I barely know where to begin, as the next three decades of your life are going to hold infinite joy, wonder, laughter, …

Spiritual Pollution

If our ego can see itself as another might, then action can be monitored and vital cooperation can result. – Edward E. Sampson We understand what it means to pollute our air or our water, but what most of us don’t realize is that our ego creates a form of spiritual pollution. We’re projecting our egoic attachments into the world, in …

Scapegoating Skepticism

It’s a most distressing affliction to have a sentimental heart and a skeptical mind. – Naguib Mahfouz Our ego, the central processing center of consciousness, endlessly pressures our logic into abandoning the truth in our hearts because it likes to exert and maintain control. This is reinforced culturally: first, through the Newtonian-Cartesian split between mind and body, and second, because …

Proclaiming Unconscious Parenting

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. – Frederick Douglass Collectively, we’re waking up to the reality that we’ve been living largely unconsciously for generations . . . With the cultural movement to live more consciously, comes heightened self-reflection and subsequent awareness around the wounding related to our unconscious choices, as well as the unconscious …

The Responsibility of Affluence

The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival. – Aristotle Indigenous cultures worldwide understand that for anyone to thrive, everyone must thrive. It’s a consequence of patriarchy that we have forgotten how we’re all interconnected and interdependent. Patriarchy is a system that maximizes hierarchy and minimizes empathy. This reality has …

Initiating Intuition

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.    – Albert Einstein The more rapid-fire change we face, the more essential it is to get smarter about the way we are smart . . . In Western culture, we …

Surrender Time

Careful with those who would rush your healing, who would point to their watch and remind you of time’s passing. – Tyler Knott Gregson Culturally, we aren’t taught emotional intelligence. Some of us, if we’re lucky, will learn it in our families . . . The bulk of us though, will largely learn to deal with emotional growth after we’ve …

The Way Out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. – J.K. Rowling Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing we can do, is to let go when someone needs help . . . If the situation involves a compulsion or addiction that cannot be stopped no matter how sound the external advice or the effort of intervention by …