Scapegoating Skepticism

It’s a most distressing affliction to have a sentimental heart and a skeptical mind. – Naguib Mahfouz Our ego, the central processing center of consciousness, endlessly pressures our logic into abandoning the truth in our hearts because it likes to exert and maintain control. This is reinforced culturally: first, through the Newtonian-Cartesian split between mind and body, and second, because …

Proclaiming Unconscious Parenting

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. – Frederick Douglass Collectively, we’re waking up to the reality that we’ve been living largely unconsciously for generations . . . With the cultural movement to live more consciously, comes heightened self-reflection and subsequent awareness around the wounding related to our unconscious choices, as well as the unconscious …

The Responsibility of Affluence

The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival. – Aristotle Indigenous cultures worldwide understand that for anyone to thrive, everyone must thrive. It’s a consequence of patriarchy that we have forgotten how we’re all interconnected and interdependent. Patriarchy is a system that maximizes hierarchy and minimizes empathy. This reality has …

Initiating Intuition

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.    – Albert Einstein The more rapid-fire change we face, the more essential it is to get smarter about the way we are smart . . . In Western culture, we …

Surrender Time

Careful with those who would rush your healing, who would point to their watch and remind you of time’s passing. – Tyler Knott Gregson Culturally, we aren’t taught emotional intelligence. Some of us, if we’re lucky, will learn it in our families . . . The bulk of us though, will largely learn to deal with emotional growth after we’ve …

The Way Out

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. – J.K. Rowling Sometimes the hardest, most loving thing we can do, is to let go when someone needs help . . . If the situation involves a compulsion or addiction that cannot be stopped no matter how sound the external advice or the effort of intervention by …

Embracing the Inner Groundhog

I’m not going to live by their rules anymore. – Phil Connors (Bill Murray in Groundhog Day) I was born on February 2nd . . . In my native South Africa, this is just another summer day. But in my adopted country, my birthday is associated with the beloved tradition of Groundhog Day. For those who don’t know, there’s a …

The Power of Intention

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson A new year rolls around and we find ourselves looking back, assessing, and then turning our attention towards setting resolutions . . . And in the weeks and months that follow, we do our best to accomplish those …

My Mother’s Legacy

You who are on the road, must have a code that you can live by. And so become yourself . . .   – Graham Nash My relationship with my mom has been one of the most rewarding, and at times, challenging of my life . . . My mother, Leslie Temple-Thurston, in her book The Marriage of Spirit, refers …

The Essence of Boundaries

Human relationships of true intimacy are founded on the vital trust in the other to achieve the completion of the Self. – Edward E. Sampson Our primary relationship is with our authentic Self . . . every other relationship follows from there . . . In order to get our needs met, we must invite a variety of relationships into …